Failure is not terminal, it is not fatal. Well, most of it isn’t and shouldn’t be anyway. Failure is a part of the process, it is an inevitable component of successful ventures and endeavors and as such it shouldn’t be seen as a limiting factor. Don’t allow to be scared by the prospect of failure as then you will never make progress, you will never do anything new.
Do you remember learning how to swim, or ride a bicycle or drive a car…all of those where someone scary things, but you have pressed on until you have mastered them. The rest of life is much of the same, filled with opportunities and challenges most of which you can overcome with focus, action and strong belief in your abilities.
Don’t be afraid to fail.
Progress = happiness! Success arrives at the end of a sequence of steps, generally in smaller, more manageable increments. Success is rarely an event, but rather an outcome of a process, dedication and hard work. With that in mind, focus on small, incremental improvements and progress, not changing yourself as that will happen on its own in due time.
Take it one day at a time and make measurable actions towards your goals. In time, you will be standing in front of your goal, ready to embrace it.
5 things to consider as you are dealing with challenging individuals or situations. No matter what happens, staying cool, calm and collected with benefit you.
Here are 5 areas to focus on when you are dealing with events which are not worthy of your time, effort or attention.
- Look at the big picture and the issue’s relevance
- Look at the individual causing the issue
- Contain the issue
- Take the high road (where possible)
- Realign with your major goals for this year
What is your story? What is the excuse you keep telling yourself for not going after all the things you want and deserve in life, in career, in business, health, family…what is it, do you know?
Now, that you are being honest with yourself, let’s take this moment to reflect on what you truly desire in life and career. Do you know what that is and do you know what you need to do to get there in due time? If you do (and only your truth and awareness matters) you need to spend more time focusing your attention, energy and action on those areas. Take it one day at a time and build necessary momentum in making progress and moving forward.
One day, time will pass us by and when you look back on your life, your career, your contributions, nothing will hurt as much as regret for not acting and taking chances, even calculated risks at times. Go after your dreams and goals, TODAY!
Don’t waste time. In life, in business, in career, in all you do, wasting time is a significant deficiency for most and it should be taken more seriously as time can’t be bought back, it can’t be recouped.
If you know that a particular place is no longer the right fit for you, it is critical not to continue wasting more time hoping it will change. If it hasn’t changed over the past several years, what gives you the confidence that this year will be the year it does? If there’s new leadership, or new priorities that could bring some hope, but if nothing has changed, it is time to move on. You have one life, ask yourself is this how you want to spend it?
Complaining is an ugly attribute and generally gets you nowhere. If you can do something to enact change please do, otherwise, gracefully and professionally thank them for their time and move on to a place where you will be a part of something larger than yourself; a place where you will be valued and respected and a place where your contributions will be noticeable and recognized.
One life, tick-tock, tick-tock…
Complimenting others is a nice thing to do when it is sincere and comes from the heart. Sharing compliments and being nice to a fellow human being makes us feel good and makes them feel event better, but is this the best we can do?
Why don’t we take this a step further and actually invest our time and effort into helping other people. Take a moment to open a door for someone else; help them with their bags or boxes up the stairs; help them find their smile again. Furthermore, the most important component in this practice of selfless help is to be truly selfless and expect NOTHING in return. When I say NOTHING, I mean NOTHING…don’t ask them for anything in return and don’t expect anything in return…EVER!
Can you do this?
Patience and gratitude go a long way in life and in business. Way too many of us (at times) express entitlement (irrespective of age) and act in the manner as if someone else owes us something which is ridiculous in most instances.
Remember, the world doesn’t owe you anything, if you want something you will need to work for it and earn it! Be practical, dream big, work every day and focus on improving your knowledge and experience in areas that matter to us today and will matter even more in years to come. Always look 3-5 years ahead and work hard each day to get there, one step at a time.
Focus = future. What you are focusing on today will undoubtedly determine your tomorrow. Your intent, your focus, your actions along with your skills, talent, education and experience will determine your level of success.
All of us spend too much time, effort and energy on things that don’t matter in the grand scheme of life and don’t have the expected return on investment (ROI). In order to limit that wasteful approach one must be aware of what they truly want, need and desire. Once you know that, go all in on executing the plan to get there.
Beware of self-proclaimed experts as they are rarely what they claim to be. Expertise can at times be subjective and skin deep which is why you should accept expertise cautiously (especially the one where it is self-proclaimed).
I have experienced numerous examples where so called experts were miles away from what they have claimed to be and as such our relationships had no potential to grow and advance as they were initiated on lies and false promises. Professionals, yes…experts on the other hand are very hard to come by and generally don’t consider themselves to be experts which is always a good tell to be aware of.
Promote, encourage and even demand learning and exchanges of ideas across your organizations and your teams. As I often say, best ideas must win and as such it is essential for leaders to create environments where it is safe to fail, safe to dissent and have respectful, collaborative conversations.
Surround yourself with amazing people. People who are passionate, excited and positive about the opportunities and your collaborative future. Work with people who are intelligent, creative, knowledgeable and brave to speak up when they believe it is necessary for the benefit of everyone you work with.